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Jenny,
I miss you.
Mary
mary Getzke
Hutchinson, MN USA - Wednesday, August 6, 2008 8:40 PM CDT

Thank you Jenny for sharing Tom with me, and allowing me a second chance at life, be assured of my prayers for you and yours. I am truly grateful for Tom
Andrew Thomas Fahey <andrewfahey07@yahoo.com>
Worcester, Ma. USA - Wednesday, August 6, 2008 1:02 PM CDT

Jenny,

Thanks for keeping the site up. I'm not sure if you even read posts here anymore, but if not maybe soemeone else will be inspired by all of the posts and quit this habit. I started my battle with nicotine addiction (in the form of Skoal) and quit on February 13, 2007. I'm proud to say I'm going to hit 18 months here in a couple of weeks. It was, and still is, a tough fight. I used nicotine for 26 of my 41 years of life. Sorry...

My story is not really important. What is really important is what got me started, and my first step was reading Tom's story. As a father to 3 young children, the impact of your story hit me REALLY hard. Like Tom, I DON'T CRY, but I laid in bed in the grips of an anxiety attack and cried for almost 2 hours straight after reading it. I just pictured my kids at my deathbed crying, only to have their memories of their dad fade over the years. Wow! Its still tough for me now.

I guess what I would like to extend to you Jenny, is a heartfelt thank you for bringing Tom's story to the public eye. I think most people just merely fade out of existence without any type of legacy. Tom left a legacy, and while I am know that you and the kids would rather have him back, a legacy be damned, know this; Tom's legacy lives within me, in the fact that I will not die by own hand in the form of oral or lung cancer. That I will wake up tomorrow (by God's grace) and see my smiling children and hear the cherished word "Daddy" that defines my life and my legacy. I do it for them, but also in the spirit of Tom's legacy...

God Bless you and your family Jenny.
JeffM <jmalone@satx.rr.com>
- Saturday, July 26, 2008 11:53 AM CDT

no one in this world is alone,i have been there and trust me i did not like the experience.i was bold and used my second chance,i am free at last.take your second chance.
........................................
carol smith
Dual Diagnosis
carol smith
machassuchettes, boston U.S.A - Monday, June 23, 2008 1:24 AM CDT

God bless you all. I wept as I read your story 3 days ago. I made the decision to quit using tobacco right then and there. I have been scared straight. I am not ashamed to say I cried. Better for me to cry now than later, when my wife's and family's tears could only be tears of pain and sadness over my premature death.
P.H.
Orange County, ca USA - Tuesday, June 10, 2008 7:44 PM CDT

I dont know if you continue to read these messages, but I just wanted to add my thanks for your words. 200 days ago I first read "Jenny and Tom's Story" on killthecan.org. At that point I was "thinking" about quitting, but had never had anything to push me over the edge. Reading the reality of my back of my mind fears finally pushed me to act. Your loss can never be made right, but please accept my thanks for your witness to the evils of snuff and for perhaps saving my life. I am 194 days clean today and looking forward to enjoying a longer life with my unborn child (due 1/09). Blessings upon you and your family.
Troy Tindall <tindalt@yahoo.com>
Richmond, TX USA - Wednesday, May 28, 2008 11:03 PM CDT

Jenny,

I didn't know that you were continuing this level of outreach in Tom's legacy. One of the last conversations I had with Tom was encouraging him to share his story. Your continued dedication to that purpose is beautiful. Sharing the story has without a doubt saved many individuals and families from grievous loss. I'm honored to be your BIL. :)
Fred Patch <fpatch@tds.net>
Monticello, MN USA - Tuesday, May 13, 2008 5:48 PM CDT

Jenny,
Hi, I am a 22 year old from Burnsville, Minnesota. I used skoal for the last 4 years of my life. I would go through a can or two a day. I have now been clean for a little over 3 months. I wanted you to know that it was your story about Tom that made me quit chewing. I am so sorry for the loss you and your children suffered. I am also happy that you were able to find love again. But I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. Your story may have saved my life. I just wanted you to know that you made a difference in my life, and it means a lot to me. So once again, thank you! God bless you and your family. You guys are in my prayers.
Zach Wise <xfileszach03@yahoo.com>
Burnsville, Minnesota U.S.A. - Sunday, May 11, 2008 6:06 AM CDT

Jenny-
I just happened to find your page in a Google search. I have been reading your page and your story over at quitsmokeless.org for almost an hour now. I am sure I have no idea the pain you and your children must have gone through and like still go through from time to time.

I fell sill to admin that I have sat here reading about your family with tears in my eyes and so much emotion filling me up as I read through your posts.

It is wonderful that God has brought Don into your life, I also think it is wonderful that you are doing so much to make sure your kids remember Tom.

You will have one more persons prayers tonight out here in California.

My God Bless you and your family.
Jeremy
Jeremy
Alta Loma, CA USA - Monday, May 5, 2008 6:51 PM CDT

Jenny I'm very sad for the loss you and your family suffered, and it is great to see that you have been able to move on. On January 3rd of this year I had a chew in my lip, was bored so I google'd quit chewing, with no intention of actually doing it. I found killthecan.org and from there found your story. I had a son on the way and just couldn't imagine leaving him fatherless due to something I had control over.

I'm now 108 days free of chew, a huge huge reason for that is your story. I thank you, my wife thanks you, and my 6 week old son would thank you if he knew.

I also think that hopefully this will break the nicotine chain that has been in my family for generations, my son will never see me use chew, hopefully that will help to keep him off of nicotine. I'll be sure to educate him to the dangers though.

Your story has helped so many.
Sandman32 from killthecan.org
Josh
- Saturday, April 19, 2008 1:17 AM CDT

In one month i will have been skoal free for one year and it has made such a big difference in my life. I want to share my story because life without tobacco is amazing. I started when i was 12yo. I was 37 when I guit. That is 25 years of my life wasted to a worthless cause. I now wake in the morning and my mouth does not taste like crap%^^&&*(*(((. I'm not feeling my pockets for my can or spit cans here and there. Ever drink from one? I found this website to remined myself why I needed to kick the habit. It has given me more reason and support to stay tobacco free.
Bruce McGuire <brucemcguire57@yahoo.com>
chandler, ok usa - Sunday, April 13, 2008 8:52 PM CDT

Jenny, Yet again I am another success story! 20 plus year addict of Copenhagen, now quit over 6 months! Reading your painful stuggle of what such a horrible addiction can do. I am so amazed how many lives you have touched, I know there are many, many more people who have stayed quit because of this true story. I know for a fact you are not the only one to ever go through with this, but no matter how much I search the web, yours is all I find.....Thank you for keeping this here, I bet you and Tom's story has changed thousands of lives for the better!
God Bless you and your family!!
Jim Melton
Portsmouth, VA U.S.A. - Wednesday, April 9, 2008 11:33 AM CDT

The Kern Family

Your letter was the first thing i read on the quitsmokless.org website. It was the turning point in my decision to quit. I have now been quit for almost a year 319 days to be exact. I know i will never touch the stuff again. I am so sorry for your loss. Your story has helped me as well as many others make the decision to quit. God Bless you and your family!
Chris Bruce
Springboro, OH US - Thursday, April 3, 2008 9:49 PM CDT

I just stumbled across this memorial, and wow what jolt it gave me! I'm a 40yr old who has been dipping since the age of 12. I'm honestly embarrassed to admit that I can't remember a SINGLE day gone by that I haven't dipped. It made me sick to my stomach and brought tears to my eyes to see what damage this stuff has done to Tom you and your kids. I'm feeling like a selfish jerk right now for all the years I've been doing this and what harm can come of it. I think reading this made me think for the 1st time, not about what physical damage it will do to me, but what harm it will cause my family and friends if tobacco were to kill me. This story scared the **** out of me, and I pray that this is enough to give me a good base to free myself of this addiction that absolutely controls my life-where I go, what I do, and how I feel. Thankyou for leaving this site up, it means a lot!
Hoss <dblristretto@aol.com>
Basalt, CO - Saturday, March 8, 2008 0:22 AM CST

Thank you for your story. As I type, I am crying because I am dealing with a husband and father who has loved Copenhagen more than he has loved us. He has lied to me, taken money from me and sacrificed his time with me and our children. I am so sad for you and your family but I do have an (small - compared to you) undertsanding of how much this issue hurts those addicted and especially those who love them. My husband says this is it this time but as many of us know we have heard that before. I hope God will direct him to conquer this beast because I am so afraid of also losing him forever - either by death or becuase of his love of Copenhagen. May God be with you and continue to be strong!!! Your story is an inspiration to all of using dealing with this painful issue.
K Roberts
- Friday, March 7, 2008 12:57 AM CST

I am on day 5 of my quit right now and I am 31 years old. I am married with a wonderful 17 month old son. It scares me right now to know that my life could have been cut short due to my addiction. I know I am only on day 5 but after reading the story of your husband I know that I will stay quit. I am so sorry for your loss and I hope that others can gain knowledge from your life and realize how they are wasting away the possibility of wonderful moments. I will pray for you and your family and I hope nothing but the best for all of you in the future. Thank you for sharing your husbands story. Just know that he just saved a life, mine.

Travis Overstreet II <crazycboater@verizon.net>
Bedford, Va - Monday, January 21, 2008 8:53 PM CST

I will pray for you and you children. May God bless you. Your story is very touching, I to am addicted to Tobbacco Dip. Today is number 109 days free of dip for me. I know your story could have been my familys story, thank you for posting your message. I wounder way something could come to take place in your familys life of such desaster. And then I think why did I dip for all those many years 25 years to be exact. You story Im sure will live forever. God purpose in life may not be understood now, but somehow there is. I can understand my words may not be much comfort. But thank you. I will remember to pray for you and your family. And add you to our family.

Dan Lee <threekids2dog@peoplepc.com>
Lynchburg , VA. USA - Sunday, January 20, 2008 3:47 PM CST

I have tried several times times to quit dipping. I've made promises to others, to myself, and I have broken them every time. I feel like that every time that I do something that involves manual labor, fishing, etc. I think that I need a dip. I tell myself just one, and then I end up dipping for a few months, and then the vicious cycle begins. I check my mouth everyday for soars. I am scared to death of getting cancer, but yet I continue to dip. That is until I just read your story. It brought tears to my eyes, and a sickening feeling in my belly. I have two beautiful children that I do not even want to think about leaving. I made the same promises that Tom made about quitting after my first child was born....she is going to be 3 years old. Your story is very sad, but inspirational. I have been dipping off on and for approximately 18 years, and I am 32. I read your story, and I feel sad for Tom, but then I think about you, and your children, and the saddens multiplies. I do not want leave my family in the same manner. Thank you for sharing your story, and being a strong person, and wonderful mother to your children. I am printing a few copies of your story out to keep them with me at all times, so when I want to chew, I am going to read it again. Thank you Jenny, and you Tom, have made greatest sacrifice of all, but you just saved my life.
Craig Merrick <cmerrick@hotmail.com>
Phillipsburg, NJ United States - Thursday, January 17, 2008 6:02 PM CST

Jenny...

I've got a beautiful wife and beautiful children, just like you and Tom have... I've read your story many times and my wife will not be in the same shoes that you once wore. Thank you for sharing. May God bless you, your husband, and your families always.

19 years of chew at 33 years old... and it's over. Please email me dear so I can learn what my wife would have to deal with if I'm gone. My boys would be okay b/c their mom is one of a kind.. but she just can't do it alone... and the craves suck. But I'll win.
Shane Clem <telecommwhiz@yahoo.com>
Elk, VA 22827 - Monday, January 7, 2008 9:02 PM CST

Mij @ KTC My 10 year old son and I read the story together tonight, and our thoughts & prayers will be with you always.
James Cupo <JimmyCupo01@comcast.net>
Port Charlotte, FL USA - Tuesday, December 18, 2007 7:10 PM CST

thank you for sharing your story and allowing me to use this message to finally quit the smokeless tobacco. I pray for you and wish you the merriest holidays.
Shadd <shadd307@yahoo.com>
Cheyenne, WY USA - Tuesday, December 18, 2007 6:48 PM CST

Thank you very much for sharing your story. I'm very sorry for your loss but your courage in sharing this story has helped countless others.

God bless you and your family.
steelcities at killthecan.org
Tallil, Iraq - Friday, December 14, 2007 11:40 AM CST

I'm 30 years old and finally tobacco free, thanks too QSO, beaverchew, and most importantly, Jenny and Tom Kern. Like so many before me, I want to thank you for saving my life. I tried to quit several times unsuccessfully, until I read your family's story on QSO. May God bless you and your family.
Will <willpharmd@hotmail.com>
Florence, SC - Tuesday, December 11, 2007 7:15 AM CST

Thank you for sharing your story. My thoughts and prayers continue to be with you.

KillTheCan.org says THANK YOU!
Greg Bellan (chewie) <iuchewie@gmail.com>
Twinsburg, OH USA - Thursday, November 8, 2007 11:18 AM CST

Like so many others here, your husband's story affected me deeply. It finally brought reality to my addiction and shook me to the core. I am so sorry that he can no longer be with us but I hope your family finds solace in the many lives he has saved. I stopped using tobacco in March, 2007 and I cite your husband's story and QS.org as the reason I was able to break free.
wgh
Louisville, KY - Thursday, October 18, 2007 4:23 PM CDT

Jenny Kern and family...I never was formally introduced to your father but like any 30-something smokeless tobacco user we know Tom. We know how much he loved his family. We know how he would do anything for his family. We know how he wanted to quit using everyday. And we know the shame he felt b/c the addiction was too powerful. And I would imagine Tom was more powerful than life itself.

My name is Pat and I am a 38yr old father of two beautiful children. I am also a 24yr user of smokeless tobacco. Five days ago I decided enough was enough...I QUIT. I have made the same commitment to quit in the past however this time is different. Your story while absolutely tragic serves as an inspiration to many. You will never know all the people your family will touch.

Your father is one of the most important persons in my life and I never met him. The best way I can honor your father is to say...

THANK YOU FOR SAVING MY LIFE!

GOD BLESS!!
Pat <pjob@optonline.net>
New York, NY - Wednesday, September 12, 2007 9:21 PM CDT

Day 16. Thank You Kern Family.
John Smith <johnrachel@sbcglobal.net>
Simi Valley, CA - Friday, September 7, 2007 11:02 AM CDT

Thank You for making me realize why I must quit. I have been chewing for 12 years and I can't put my wife and two little girls through the pain you must have felt. God Bless you and your family. Today is day number 1.
John Smith <johnrachel@sbcglobal.net>
Simi Valley, CA - Friday, August 24, 2007 2:47 PM CDT

Hi I'm Kalley Karpinsky. Nichole if you see this i have already told mom and dad but they have not told you. i remember my dad mike kerpinsky telling me about tom. he was a nice guy i here. i pray for you and your family every single night when i go to sleep. well hope ur doing well ttyl.
Kalley
mesa , pennsylvania usa - Wednesday, August 22, 2007 5:11 PM CDT

Jenny and Family of Tom Kern,

Today is 100 days for me without dip. I have made it this far because of a website called quitsmokeless.org. When I stumbled onto this website, I found the link to Tom's story. Clicking on that link may very likely have saved my life. I cannot begin to imagine the pain felt by your family, but I hope it can provide some comfort knowing that Tom's story has saved lives. I know I will always count Tom and your family as one of the inspirations I had to quit.

God Bless you and your Family
John Cole <formyboys@nc.rr.com>
- Friday, July 20, 2007 9:21 PM CDT

Hello Jenny,
I just want to thank you for sharing your story about Tom on the quitsmokeless board. I have used tobacco for almost 20 years and have recently quit. The story you posted about Tom was a huge inspiration to me and I will draw from it daily to help me stay off of tobacco. I'm in my late thirties and also have kids that I want to be around to see them grow. I have read some of your other journal entries and glad that you are doing better and moving on. God bless you and your kids. Thanks once again for sharing your story about Tom. I don't ever want to use tobacco again.
Brad Xanders <xanders@pldi.net>
Orlando, Ok United States - Thursday, July 19, 2007 11:10 AM CDT

Hello Jenny,
I admire you and your family very much. I have used smokeless tobacco for over twenty years. I have two lovely children that are very young. I want to see them grow up. Thanks largely to you and the quitsmokeless site, I have now been quit for almost 100 days. This is truly the longest I have gone largely due to you and the people on the site. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your courage and determination to get the word out. I can't immagine the pain you must feel- I will not pretend that I do. Just know that I will say a prayer for you and your family every day.
Rob Scilingo <jimjenkins4_11@yahoo.com>
San Jose, CA USA - Thursday, April 5, 2007 8:45 AM CDT

Hi Jenny~
I have two more books that you have got to read. Maybe you have already read them but they are called One Tuesday Morning and Beyond Tuesday Morning...They are about 9/11 and a wife losing her husband and learning to move on. They are Christian books and are awesome...I woke up two mornings at around 3 and finished them by 8! The faith that is shown in these two books speaks right to you and I bawled through the majority of both of them. You will love them. (Let me know if you read them). Thanks for the updates and congratulations, you deserve all the happiness in the world.
Melissa Walter <missw24@hotmail.com>
Moorhead, MN - Saturday, March 17, 2007 9:58 PM CDT

Jenny - Wow! I have been browsing your site for a while today. It's amazing to read the guestbook and discover how many people are actually educated about smokeless tobacco becuase of you! You have been a wonderful spokesperson to help many people see the long-term pain that chewing can cause. You are truly an inspiration to so many people. Also Jenny, congratulations on all the great things that have transpired in your life and the lives of your children. As a wife, I can't imagine what you're going through, but as someone who lost their dad at 16 and watched my mom re-marry, I can understand what your kids might be feeling. Take it from me, I didn't like it at first when my mom got re-married, but looking back, it's EXACTLY what my mom needed to be a whole person herself. There's no reason you shouldn't miss Tom or stop loving him, but there's also no reason that you should spend the rest of your life alone without the happiness that Don can bring you either. Celebrate each day with Don, his son, your wonderful kids and beautiful baby Kenra! You have SO much to be thankful for and Tom has got a wonderful seat to watch you and guide you through it all!
Lisa (Frisell) Newpower <mrmrsnewps@msn.com>
Cottage Grove, MN USA - Thursday, February 15, 2007 12:50 AM CST

Hi Jenny,
My name is Walter and I was a smokeless tobacco user for years. Tom Kern's story had a direct impact on my decision to quit that terrible habit. I am now free of tobacco. May Tom's memory serve as an example to people about this terrible tobacco habit that does not get NEAR as much press as it should. Many people still think the stuff is harmless. My mission now is to help as many people as I can to quit this terrible habit. Tom's story helped me change my life, however, there are still too many people who did not hear the story or just choose not to listen. All the best to you Jenny and family.
Walter <captainretail@aol.com>
- Monday, February 5, 2007 4:30 PM CST

Jenny, I've just reread Tom's story that you shared awhile back. It never ceases to bring me to tears. Through the last few years, you've struggled and grown. I am so happy for you now, with your impending marriage to Don. Best wishes for the coming years. I know Tom is smiling for you. with much love, Aunt Charlotte
Charlotte Robertson <cwgrbird@aol.com>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Wednesday, January 10, 2007 9:03 PM CST

Hi Jenny,
Yes, like the others, I have followed your inspiring blog. Despite different problems we may have, you testimony of faith speaks to all of them and it touches me in so many ways. I liked Don the minute I met him at the reunion. He felt "right" for you and your family and you for him. Sure am lifting up Connor and McKinley in prayer, as many are. Hang in there, dear niece, you're on the Godly path. Love and Blessings.
Molly & Bill Halter <christian@cboss.com>
North Lima, OH USA - Friday, October 13, 2006 5:29 PM CDT

Jenny and Family
I stop in here from time to time to catch up with your family. I continue to keep you and your family in my prayers. I saw MacKenzie in the Medical Center not long ago with Kenra and she told me about your engagement. Congratulations to you and Don. That is a big step for all of you. I truly think Tom would be happy for you, he wouldn't want you to be alone Jenny. When you wrote in a previous posting about dating... "I asked God to open doors so wide I would be able to tell He wanted me to walk through them." God must have opened that door for you. I know its probably hard for the kids with another adjustment, but when you keep those lines of communication open with them and continue to trust in God for guidance, He will see you through all the those times. I will definitely continue to pray for you, Don and all the kids.
Sounds like you all have been very busy. We have had a very busy summer with many hills and valleys to go through. I think we are finally see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Dawn
HUTCHISON, MN USA - Friday, October 13, 2006 5:28 PM CDT

Hey Mrs. Kern~
Congratulations on your engagement! My Social Theory class was having a great debate about love...one girl claimed that you are meant to only fall in love once and once you have, you will never have that same love again. The rest of the class disagreed with her, believing that love is different for everyone...I used you and your experience as an example and my teacher agreed with me. Anyway, I just thought I would let you know that. Have a great day!
Melissa Walter <walterme@mnstate.edu>
Moorhead, MN - Wednesday, October 11, 2006 10:21 PM CDT

Hi Mrs. Kern,

I first signed this guestbook in July of 2005 and followed your story for some time before that. I wanted to let you know that I have been tobacco free for 610 days today, in no small part due to your and Mr. Kern's story. I sincerely thank you. Congratulations on the new addition- may God bless you and your family.
Mike Carbone <mikecarbone@comcast.net>
North Attleboro, MA USA - Monday, October 9, 2006 3:12 PM CDT

Dear Jenny and family,
I have been following you in your Caring Bridge journey. Peter and I wish you and your family only the best. Give Connor time, he is a wonderful boy because of you and Tom. Congratulations on your engagement. Peter met Don at the family reunion and could see he makes you happy.
Take care and have fun at Bobby's wedding, Peter and Karen Heers
Karen Heers <heers.karen@mayo.edu>
Oakland , MN USA - Monday, September 25, 2006 8:17 AM CDT

Jenny,

You wrote the following in your 5/2/06 post about dating... "I asked God to open doors so wide I would be able to tell He wanted me to walk through them."

Sister, you've opened so many doors to life I honestly can't see any reason why your reqest would be denied. What do I mean?.... The story you published, and the pain of your suffering has been a beacon for hundreds of us over on Quitsmokeless.org. I really wish there was a way for me to express just how much you've helped us put an end to the destructive forces of nicotine addiction in our lives. You've truly been a guiding light, leading lost souls to a better life.

God Bless you Jenny. I sincerely hope you find all that you seek in life, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your inspiration.

- Patrick
Patrick
San Ramon, CA - Saturday, September 9, 2006 1:47 AM CDT

Hello Jenny,
I want to thank you for sharing Tom's Story. I am a new member of the quitsmokeless website and have been for going on my 4th day. My quit day was July 25,2006. I have been having some difficulty staying focused and keeping from using the chew. Until I came across Tom's Story. I now have you and your family in my prayers and I thank you for your bravery. I now have another inspiration in my life and I will always be thankful. Peace and Love to you and your Family.
Corey Robinson <coreyrwrestling@canada.com>
Halifax, NS Canada - Thursday, July 27, 2006 10:01 PM CDT

JLou,
BigMac & baby Kenra are looking great! Grandma Robertson & Aunts said they had a fun time being with all of you and loved cuddling with Kenra. Jenny, you and your children are always in my heart & thoughts. You are a loving, supportive, and hard working Mother! Yet, as you surely know, life doesn't stop. Stay focused on the things you can give & receive love today. Can't wait to see you on J-4th.
I Love You,... Drew
Andrew Robertson <ARIC74@comcast.net>
Naperville, IL - Tuesday, May 23, 2006 10:03 AM CDT

I wanted to thank you for sharing your story to those of us trying to quit smokeless tabacco at quitsmokeless.org. As a 35 year old father of two, with one more on the way, I relate to your story and I have found it to be another source of strength as I celebrate 120 days quit.

I wish I had more to say to you and family, but I'm afraid I cannot adequitly express how I feel. I just can't find the words. Thanks for sharing your story. I wish you and your family the best.
In Christ's peace, A.J. Parker <ajmette@sbcglobal.net>
Fishers, IN US - Monday, May 22, 2006 2:39 PM CDT

Jenny, Glad to see you've got a couple of new things to smile about. You deserve it. Best of luck.
Jay O <superstar3354@hotmail.com>
- Monday, May 8, 2006 3:45 PM CDT

A new baby! How wonderful!! Congratulations to Kenra's mommy, grandma and her auntie's and uncle!!!
Carolyn Bah <cbomstad@hutchtel.net>
- Monday, May 8, 2006 8:55 AM CDT

Jenny~
Congratulations on becoming a grandma. I check the website every once in a while, just to see if you have updated it. It sounds like you really are going through some changes but everything happens for a reason. Have a great day!

Melissa Walter <missw24@hotmail.com>
- Wednesday, May 3, 2006 5:38 PM CDT

hi,
I am the daughter of Mike and Katherine Karpinsky. I logged on to this website today not knowing what i was going to see, for this is the first time i have logged on. What i saw was remarkable and made me regret never logging on before! I want you to know that my family and i are sending our prayers everyday and it is obvious that everyone else is doing the same. I still can remember Tom from when my dad, him and all of their friends would go on boundry water trips. I remember Tom as a funny guy who always was making people laugh. Tom and your family are always in my prayers!

Nichole Karpinsky <Katherine Karpinsky@aol.com>
Mesa, AZ - Wednesday, March 15, 2006 4:55 PM CST

Dear Jenny,
I found Tom's story on the Quit Smokeless.org site. And I can honestly say this story brought me to tears and has given me a greater motivation to stay away from chewing tobacco. I quit 2 weeks ago and before that I had quit for 9 years and started back using chew for 4 more years. Thats all it took was one chew and I was hooked again. Tom's story also shows me how deadly smokeless tobacco is. And the tobacco companys need to change their warning labels to this product will kill you and not use the current one that says this product could cause cancer or tooth lose and gum disease. I need to share this story with my uncles and cousins who chew. I,am also grieving right now I lost my father-in-law to brain cancer on 01/29/06 and he never chewed, smoked or drank more than a few beers. I was raised by a single parent my mother and never had a father and my father-in-law was like the dad I never had and after losing him I deceided to give my chideren a father like grandpa was to my wife,sister-in-law and brother-in-law. After reading Tom's story I feel it gave me the extra boost to stay tobacco free for life. I have no urges to start up again and now I would like to help my uncles quit. Their both in their 50's and have been chewing since highschool. And they both have loving famlies like yours. I have not even chewed half the time my uncles have and I have caused enough tissue and tooth damage from chewing that I will have to spend $20,000 to repair my teeth. And I Have a loving wife and two little girls who need me.
May GOD Bless you and your family for this story it will probable save my life from cancer and hopefully my Uncles.

Toby J. Aberle <tobyaberle@rushmore.com>
- Thursday, March 2, 2006 3:38 AM CST

Hi Jenny,
Tom's story resonated so much with me. I, too, have made promise after promise to my wife: honey, I will quit on your birthday; sweetie, on valentine's day; my love, when our daughter is born. I even went as far as to write contracts out for specific numbers of cans for specific periods of time. I was an addict, no doubt about it. You see, I have two years of sobriety under my belt, and I thought, wow, another addiction has taken over my life, and now I have to battle this too. I am not ready. I need chew to get through the day, through trips, through life. Well, Tom's story touched me on such a deep level. If it means anything, I have quit smokeless tobacco because of that story. My family life is great, my wife does not threaten divorce (I used to holler at her, yeah, you will divorce me over nicotine), not realizing that it was the broken trust and promises, the lying and cheating that she was leaving behind. My daughter, Molly, who is only two, has a chance to have her father. My heart goes out to you and your family because Tom is gone. But his story and your story, your family's story, will, I promise, save lives. Perhaps that can bring some confort to you all.

God Bless,
Mark
Mark
Bethlehem, PA United States - Wednesday, February 22, 2006 5:10 PM CST

Hi Jenny,
The Christmas photo with 5 adorable, smiling faces beaming at us is a testimony to your family's faith, courage, and trust in Christ Jesus. The "ChristmasTomTree" is the best. Tom surely is smiling. We are, too. We miss him and Tom Markey so much. Though we can't fix your heartaches, we do lift them up in prayer. You're never far from us in spirit. Love, Bill & Molly Halter
Molly Halter <christian@cboss.com>
North Lima, OH USA - Friday, January 13, 2006 3:49 PM CST

Thanks for the Christmas card. Just want you to know that I think of you often and wonder how you're making it, especially during those times when it's easier to have a husband around to take care of the smoking washer, replace the shower head, and force the dog to swallow pills. I admire your strength to be able to continue on doing dual duty. I'd bet that your kids are gaining quite a bit of independence, which may be a real blessing down the road, though it seems tough right now.
Just my 2 cents on "doing something for yourself", which yes, you do need to do some. However, it seems to me, that when someone tells me this, I don't FEEL like going off by myself, because then I'm SUPPOSED to be having fun, feeling refreshed, etc. I find that when I'm sad, keeping busy and doing for others is much more therapeutic and makes me much happier.
I wish we had been there for the funeral in summer '04. We keep saying that we're going to MN to visit. Maybe this summer.
Cousin Julie Younger <jyounger@att.net>
Dripping Springs, TX - Friday, January 13, 2006 8:40 AM CST

JLou,
Thank you for your beautiful Christmas letter & picture. About some old news, we can certainly understand Kenzie�s dilemma to leave the swim team. When Alyse decided to not play college basketball, I think it burned me more than her? Shows� who the really mature �adult� is, eh? But the BigMac will love just being a college student & enjoying a new life. This is a blessing for you as well. Sharon & I have found a renewed sense of wonderment watching Alyse truly start to fly on her own (even though she wrecked my car on one of her school-breaks @#X%?).

Alexa, Connor & Tori are so beautiful with so much energy given the similar activities our families share. And you Jennifer are beautiful as well, I Love your Smile in the photo taken in the fall leaves. As you�ve stated �one day at a time� is the best way to learn-live-love life. We look forward to seeing y�all at the Francis reunion @ BigLou�s.

God Bless you and your children.
Drew
Andrew Robertson <ARIC74@comcast.net>
Naperville, IL - Thursday, January 12, 2006 11:05 AM CST

Dear Jenny,
My husband found QuitSmokless.org. He has quit chewing tabacco using it. Tom's story has been posted and re-posted several times and I cry every time I read it. I have refered others to read your story as well. Thank you so much for sharing your pain with so many people including those you have never met. Many wives of users have found courage from your strength. May the Lord strengenthen you every day. Peace be with you.
Vivian Trimble <vimvam@earthlink.net>
TX USA - Wednesday, January 11, 2006 7:54 PM CST

Hi Jenny and kids,
I just got your beautiful card and I thought I would check out your website.I thought about you guys alot over the holidays and really hope that you could find peace and happiness. I know this has got to be a very tough time of year. I thought about how Tom spent Christmas in heaven with Jesus. Can you even imagine how awesome that would be? Well, we love you all and Tori, you'll have to come over soon!
Happy New Year.

jennifer johnson <john1234@hutchtel.net>
hutchinson, mn - Wednesday, December 28, 2005 11:06 AM CST

Wishing you better times and wonderful dreams!

Love to all.

Carolyn Bah
Hutchinson, MN US - Thursday, December 8, 2005 11:42 PM CST

Hi Jenny,
I think of you so often.. pray for you lots... but need to see if you have any time we can get together. You are doing such an awesome job as a parent... I see your kids and they look good Jenny. When I think of Tom it brings a smile to my face but there is an empty hole in my heart. I am sooo sorry that you have to go through this...I am glad to hear how supportive your family is... they rock!
Mary
Mary <maryg@hutch.k12.mn.us>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Wednesday, November 2, 2005 2:32 PM CST

Hello Jenny,
Perhaps there will be a family who needs your ministering. Heidi Oquist died this morning. She was Amy Schmidt's cousin (in Hutch). Heidi's son, Shane, is an exceptional swimmer, in 11th grade, and daughter, Caley, is in 6th grade - equally good at swimming. Son, Colton is in 8th grade and plays hockey. All areas you guys are involved in.
Heidi positively affected a lot of people in the swimming world as a coach and mentor.
It's possible that you all could run into them or their extended families.
An enormous prayer would be welcomed.
Thanks Jenny.

Mary <fpatch@tds.net>
Monticello, - Monday, October 31, 2005 8:14 AM CST

Mrs. Kern
I was so happy to see that you have been feeling slightly better since your last update. I think that Tom, even though I didn't know him, has taught many of us to live more in the moment!
Michelle Walter <twinshelly2003@hotmail.com>
Moorhead, MN - Thursday, October 27, 2005 11:41 PM CDT

Hey Jenny,
I hope this weekend away will be refreshing and uplifting! Should be beautiful weather as well. Take Care. Love, Mary

Mary Markve-Patch
- Wednesday, October 26, 2005 10:15 PM CDT

Hi Jenny. I hope your day and evening at Gustavus homecoming was enjoyable. I know with talking to you on Friday night you were going to experience a ton of different emotions. I hope you could feel Tom's presence with you all day. Just wanted to drop in and say hi and hope all was going good today. The sun is nice. Enjoy the day.
DeeDee Reiner <dmr@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Monday, October 10, 2005 1:52 PM CDT

Jenny,
You and the kids continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. Can't imagine the emotional rollercoaster ride you are taking. Know that you have family and friends to call on for support. BWCA trip was a good time. Between the WX, wind, and fishing, it was obvious to all that TK was watching over us as we felt his presence countless times. Hang in there!
Karp <mkarpin2@wm.com>
Mesa, AZ - Friday, September 30, 2005 3:37 PM CDT

Dear Jenny and Family,
I've been waiting for a new entry. I'm sorry things are as they are. I continue to think of you often and the prayers continue as well. Stay busy and ask for the help when you need it.
Sincerely,
Jay O
Buffalo, MN - Monday, September 26, 2005 11:11 AM CDT

Jenny,

I haven't been in here lately, but I happen to go into it today. I think of you and your famliy often. I'm sure some days are harder than other, but always remember there are people out there that can help you get through. If you ever need someone to listen give me a call. Life does go on and days go bye. Tom will never be forgotten by any one. He touched so many lives and you and your family should be so proud to be a big part of it all. Have fun at the Gustavus week-end reunion. Remember Tom will be with you every step of the way. He watches over all of you more now thatn he did before.

Love Dawn
Dawn Wegner <swimming19@mchsi.com>
Hutchinson, MN McLeod - Sunday, September 25, 2005 4:01 PM CDT

Mrs. Kern~
It sounds like you have been extremely down lately. I read your entry and then heard this song for the first time and started crying because I thought of you. Its by Rascal Flatts and is called "Wanna Be Running When the Sand Runs Out". It is very good and even though I didn't know Tom, it sounds like he lived his life by this song. Hopefully you get the chance to hear it sometime, I don't think it was ever released but it is very good.
Melissa Walter <walterme@mnstate.edu>
Moorhead, MN - Saturday, September 24, 2005 11:06 PM CDT

Hey sis,

I am sooo sorry!!!!
Did you hear focus on the family this A.M.? Perhaps this evening. A woman, humorist, speaker. You may not laugh out loud, but perhaps it would be a "light" you could hear. In recalling something she said, I wonder if you could attend a spirit-filled church this weekend, every service. Park your laden backpack at the door, just be, and maybe forget to pick it back up when you leave. I'm hoping you find relief and joy.

If a hug could share your burden, it's sent.

Love you, Mary
Mary Markve-Patch <fpatch@tds.net>
- Friday, September 23, 2005 3:09 PM CDT

Mission accomplished: Tommy's favorite Quetico Fishing spots have been visited by his old friends. Fish caught and fun times had in his memory with some new memories made - which he would have enjoyed. Also noted wind at our backs (both ways - never happened before) - a resident bald eagle that monitored us closely, a double rainbow and I caught the largest walleye of my life. Thanks Tommy.
Steve Peterson
Mankato, MN - Tuesday, September 6, 2005 4:39 PM CDT

Mrs. Kern: Your letter to the quitsmokeless.org community was recently posted on its website. I have that letter in my wallet and will keep it with me for as long as it takes. I know that there are no words that I can write that will ease your pain. If it is any consolation, your story has inspired me, and many others, to quit this terrible addiction. I do not want my young children to suffer as your family has, knowing that it is within my power to prevent such a tragedy. I hope you and your children can find peace. Thank you for sharing such a painful experience in order to help others caught in the same web of addiction. I'm sure Tom is proud of your strength. Again, I'm very sorry for your loss.
Eric <evanorden@yahoo.com>
- Tuesday, August 16, 2005 12:25 AM CDT

I read Mrs. Kern's letter to the October 05 quit group on Quit Smokeless.com and it brought me to tears. I have chewed tobacco since I was 17. I have quit and quit and quit some more. I joined the Quit Smokeless group and had a successful quit for 1 1/2 years. I recently quit again and have been going for 11 days. I plan on eliminating smokeless tobacco from my life forever and it is letters like yours that help others to do the same. I want to learn from Tom's tragic death. I thank you for sharing and God Bless you and your family. May you find peace.
BJ Rycus <Spartanbj@comcast.net>
Okemos, MI USA - Saturday, July 23, 2005 9:45 PM CDT

Mrs. Kern,
Your family's story has been an inspiration to me in my quitting smokeless tobacco. Today, I have been 162 days free from chewing tobacco. During those 162 days, I have become engaged to my fiance and purchased a house; two things I attribute directly to the absence of tobacco in my life. I received this link at some point early in my quit and read every word of your story. I added this link to my signature line on quitsmokeless.org so that as many people as possible attempting to quit chewing tobacco could hear Mr. Kern's tragic story. I hope that you know that many people have been assisted in their struggle to quit and to remain quit because of Mr. Kern. Although I can only imagine the pain you and your children have undertaken, you can rest assured that this forum has enabled that pain to transcend into helping others.

Thanks again and God Bless!!!

Mike
Mike Carbone <pcarbone339@rwu.edu>
North Attleboro, MA USA - Monday, July 18, 2005 2:31 PM CDT

Mrs. Kern,

I've spent too long looking at this box to think of the right words to say. 196 days quit. Two words...Thank You.
Christian N
- Saturday, July 16, 2005 11:12 PM CDT

JLou,
Just checking in, thinking of you & the crew. With summer here and Alyse graduated getting ready for college I know your right behind us with the "Big Mac." So, here we go on another of life's adventures, yes!? Calvin at 16 is already 6'1 - 235lbs and has started football training camp. I can see Connor suiting up soon himself. Oh yes and then Alexa & Grace our two ham-bones, is there a stage big enough for any one of them, and Tori too? Yep, summer is off & running with a full schedule. But I still want to meet you somewhere in the WI-Dells before the season ends. Jenny,.. make sure you are getting out in the sun, playing in the grass, and being chased by the gang with water squirt guns. Love & Prayers,... Drew
Andrew Robertson <ARIC74@comcast.net>
Naperville, IL - Monday, June 13, 2005 9:15 AM CDT

Thinking about the Kern's today and wishing the best during this time. We've made a Boundary Waters/Quetico park permit to return to some of Tommy's favorite fishing spots this summer - the boys, Karp, Beeps, Geils and I will do some catch and release for him.
God bless and you're in my prayers
Steve Pete
PS: We'll cook up a few walleyes for Tommy too.....
Steve Peterson
Mankato, MN - Thursday, June 2, 2005 10:05 AM CDT

Jenny and kids,
I was unaware that your page was still up, but while checking on the status of someone else on another caring bridge page,who has an 8 year old boy fighting with cancer, I thought I'd take a stab and type in Tom's name. Lo and behold your page is still up! I'm so glad! You are like me, in that just being able to sit and release my feelings takes a load off. I'm glad you have this outlet for yourself and for all of us that care so much about you and your kids. I have had some wonderful e-mails back and forth with MacKenzie and am hoping that becuase I've walked in her shoes, she feels a little better when we communicate. There's nothing any of us can do to take your pain away, but like you said, when you went to that conference where you met someone else, 43, who lost her husband in January, it happened for a REASON! Yesterday marked EIGHTEEN years since my dad died. It was also fishing opener, which was a very exciting time for my dad every year. I now have lived two years longer withOUT him that WITH him. That is a strange reality and doesn't seem possible. It really DOES get easier to cope with and doesn't sting every day anymore, although it still SUCKS in a big way. God does funny things to such great people and we just have to plug our way through each day/week/month/year to find out what awesome things he has in store for us. Like you said in another entry, good things are worth waiting for, right?? This next month will be hard. You are so fortunate though, Jenny, to have an INCREDIBLE family to be there for you to help you through it. I don't know the Kern side of your family, but I'm sure they're great people. But knowing your family from my beginning practically, I have to say the Markves are ALL extremely WONderful individuals. You are so fortunate to have 4 siblings and your parents to lean on. As your kids grow up, they too, will be grateful they have each other to share stories and remember Tom as well. You have so many people behind you, caring for you, praying for you, wishing you weren't in the shoes you're in. What lucky kids you have, to have a mom, a hero, to help them through this journey. You are so brave and have come so far in the last year. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your kids even stronger in this next month to carry you through.

See, I didn't lie at the beginning of this journal entry when I said I liked to get my thoughts down on paper, did I? :) Keep the entries coming when you need to. We're all here to support you and will be there for you guys with ANYTHING you might need!

Sending all our thoughts and prayers,
Lisa Newpower <mrmrsnewps@msn.com>
Cottage Grove, MN - Monday, May 16, 2005 5:00 PM CDT

Hey, Jenny. Even phone calls are too hard to actually have a conversation, between kids and exhaustion, on both sides of our fences. You know, I still am dumbfounded that this has all transpired. I also imagine each day, what happened? I pray, then pray, then pray .... for you.... and again. There's is such a loss of what to do or say, other than ask and care. I probably go overboard putting myself in your shoes, empathizing, grief overwhelms me, and I just can't imagine. A whole year. You have done a wonderful job of taking care of yourself and your children. These next few weeks will be trying, but like you said, hand it over, He WILL carry that burden. What is the name of that guy singer who talks about "When life is hard....chorus.. cry to Jesus, dance for Jesus, fly to Jesus and LIVE." It's such a great song. I'll get it eventually. There is so much going for you right now, though it may be hard to see. Those baby steps might seem more like canyon leaps, but you'll be carried over. I'm proud of you and I love you. Mary
sis <fpatch@tds.net>
Monticello, MN - Wednesday, May 11, 2005 8:32 PM CDT

Dear Jenny,

I just wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you and the kids.
Mary Rasmussen <bamm@hutchtel.net>
Hector, MN - Friday, April 29, 2005 8:36 PM CDT

JLou,
I loved reading your recent entries. The confusion and joy of kids growing combined with the dealing of thier raw emotions must add to your stress load. But I hope it also provides you new ways to connect with your children, whom you love so much. Thank you for continuing to share your pain. Even I was taken back with your comment about how you miss Tom in so many ways you didn't think of before. This forces me to revisit my life, with Sharon & kids, and be thankful -yes- even for the countless stupid arguments we have, but to realize how much more I'd miss them if they weren't here!? I think of you often, how you're doing & holding up. My prayers are with you and your beautiful motley crew. I Love You. Drew
Andrew Robertson <ARIC74@comcast.net>
Naperville, IL - Tuesday, April 26, 2005 2:39 PM CDT

Hi Mrs. Kern
Melissa and I went home this past weekend and attended prom....Mackenzie looked beautiful! You all know that your dad was watching, just like he does everyday! I was so happy to see an update. It's okay to cry and remember, people are thinking about you guys everyday, people you never see, like me! I hope that all of these guestbook entries helps you to maybe get through a hard day or to remember that people have not forgotten about Tom or any of you!
Michelle Walter <twinshelly2003@hotmail.com>
Moorhead, MN 56563 - Monday, April 25, 2005 10:15 PM CDT

Hey Jenny,

It's be awhile. I can only imagine the roller coaster of emotions you continue to face. Keep the faith and know that we continue to think of you & the kids and are keeping you in our prayers. Did you get the e-mail I sent you awhile back about the "Fork"? Keep in touch and let us know how you are doing.
Karp <mkarpin2@wm.com>
Mesa, AZ - Friday, April 22, 2005 9:25 AM CDT

Hey Kern Family:

I haven't checked your website for a while. I really enjoyed your last journal entry, Jenny. I have heard great things about Camp Amanda.

I imagine it will always be "one day at a time" but glad things are getting a little better. Think Spring!
Scott Weilage <scottw@weilage.com>
Mankato, MN - Saturday, February 26, 2005 12:15 AM CST

Hey you guys. I just wanted to stop by and say that... Alexa... you did so good in the musical, I went to watch it with my brother and you guys were so awesome, I was amazed at how good it was. Good job girl! Connor, I watched one of your games for a little bit at the tourney the other day and you guys were doing real good. It looked like you were having so much fun and boy were you fun to watch. Good job kid, keep trying, those wins will come eventually. Kenzi, I never see you in school anymore, probably because I'm never there, but don't forget about our horseback riding adventure we still have to go on, just let me know when you would like to go and I'll get it set up. Tori, it's always fun seeing you at Park and you always have a smile on your face. Keep smiling girl and keep drawing, you might be an artist someday, that would be fun huh? Jenny I don't see you that much, but thanks for coming to the girls hockey games, we appreciate the support. It's fun seeing you in the stand during the games.
Jesse Madson <maddy414@hotmail.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Wednesday, February 2, 2005 11:04 AM CST

Hi Jenny,

I have been thinking about you alot and praying for you as well. We tried to contact Deb Day to see if all of us could get together around Christmas but I guess it didn't work. I remember when the kids were little. We used to get together every year for the holidays. I feel I need to apologize for not staying in contact with you more. I don't feel like a very good friend. I imagine the holidays were difficult. I was glad to hear about the support group you've been attending. Sounds like a great support. I wish we weren't 2 1/2 hours away but maybe we can connect sometime on our way to the cities. I continue to pray for you and the kids.
Love in Christ,
Ploegs
Kurt Ploeger <kploeger@iw.net>
- Wednesday, January 12, 2005 3:35 PM CST

Dear Jenny, I was not aware of this web site until I walked with Linda S. last wed. I was telling her how helpful Curt Lund's caringbridge page was. (Curt's wife Sandy died of cancer --funeral Dec. 19th...age 55...he is a Jr High shop teacher.) I'm thinking how good it must be to write when you are able: not to have to repeat yourself to so many caring friends; and to read messages when you are strong enough. And to feel and know of the love and concern that is there for you and the kids. Keep on keeping on, Jen. God will provide the light But the light is just until the next corner and I suspect you (like me?) want the entire way illuminated. We both know you can do it and will survive, but I'm just awfully sorry that you have to. May he hold you in the palm of his hand and may you feel comforted and carried and nurtured. p.s. I enjoyed the "Dear Mrs Kern" notes from students..aren't kids wonderful?
Sharon Dierks <sdierks@lakedalelink.net>
Maple Lake, Mn USA - Wednesday, December 29, 2004 9:26 PM CST

Dear Jenny,
Thank you again for the copy of "A Mom's Colorful World." I made beaded bookmarks for family members and friends. They turned out nicely. I told my family about Tom, you, and noticing your bracelet at school. I'll show one to you when we get back to work.

I've thought of you often during our gatherings, church, and my alone time. Thanks again for keeping us updated on this page.

Brenda
Brenda Rasmussen <brras@en-tel.net>
Willmar, MN Kandiyohi - Monday, December 27, 2004 3:15 PM CST

Hi Mrs. Kern~
I continue to check the website to see how you're family is doing. I read this poem and thought of you all. Have a Merry Christmas and a Great New Year.

My First Christmas in Heaven
I see the countless Christmas trees around the world below
With tiny lights, like Heaven's stars, reflecting on the snow.
The sight is so spectacular, please wipe away that tear
For I am spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.
I hear the many Christmas songs that people hold so dear,
but the sounds of music can't compare with the Christmas choir up here.
I have no words to tell you, the joy their voices bring,
For it is beyond description, to hear the angels sing.
I know how much you miss me, I see the pain inside your heart, But I am not so far away, we really aren't apart.
So be happy for me, dear ones, you know I hold you dear.
And be glad I'm spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.
I sent you each a special gift, from my heavenly home above. I sent you each a memory of my undying love.
After all, love is a gift more precious than pure gold.
It was always most important in the stories Jesus told.
Please love and keep each other, as my Father said to do.
For I can't count the blessings or love he has for each of you.
So have a Merry Christmas and wipe away that tear
Remember, I am spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.
Melissa Walter <missw24@hotmail.com>
Buffalo Lake, MN - Saturday, December 25, 2004 4:14 PM CST

Dear Jenny and Family,

Just wanted to wish you a happy Christmas. I never get to see you at school so this my way of staying in touch. Enjoy the break and have a Happy New Year.

Cindy
Cindy Miller <cmiller848@hotmail.com>
Hector, MN USA - Friday, December 24, 2004 11:10 AM CST

We wish you your memories of Christmas past and wish you more generous, loving, sharing Christmas' and holidays with friends and families to come.
God bless you.

Carolyn Bah <ckbah@hutchtel.net>
- Friday, December 24, 2004 0:38 AM CST

Hi Kerns:
Just to let you know that people think about you and pray for your good family everyday.
God bless during this holiday season.

Steve Pete
Steve Peterson
Mankato, MN - Tuesday, December 21, 2004 8:43 AM CST

HI,

I just got your website from Brenda. I have been visiting it through my uncle who has been diagnosed with cancer since August. I never see you at school but I think of you often. This has to be just about the hardest time of year, if you ever need to talk come on down to my room (I almost never leave it). Hope those 4th graders are shaping up for you. Take care and know you are in many peoples prayers.
Cindy Miller <cmiller848@hotmail.com>
Hector, MN USA - Wednesday, December 1, 2004 10:35 PM CST

Kern Family:
I just wanted to let you know I think of your family often.
Recently, I decided to quit using smokeless tobacco and came across your story on quitsmokeless.org. Although this probably of no comfort to you, you all have indirectly played a role in saving several lives. You have motivated many in our war against addiction. Thank You. I hope you find strength and peace.
Dan
- Wednesday, October 27, 2004 2:29 PM CDT

Mrs. Kern- I still can't call you by your first name eventhough you were my teacher nine years ago!
I just heard of this website tonight and thought that I would write a little message to tell you that I having been thinking about you and your family. While I read the journals I cried and thought of the great times you and your family got to have with Tom while he was still here on earth. My mom has cancer and has been fighting it for two years so i kinda of know what you went through while Tom was fighting. I saw you at the Relay for Life in Hutch and just wanted to give you a hug. Eventhough I never knew Tom from what I have heard he was a great guy and will never be forgotten. Don't forget that its ok to cry when you need to.
Kasey Franzeen <shortthing_fran@hotmail.com>
Buffalo Lake, MN - Tuesday, October 19, 2004 11:04 PM CDT

Jenny and kids, its such a beautiful fall day. The leaves are gently falling from the trees and the colors are spectacular this weekend, changing of the seasons. I often think of you all and changes that have been brought about in your lives this past year. You speak of meltdowns in your last entry and as I think of the meltdowns that you talk about, remember the "Footprints" poem. When you are at your lowest God is always there to carry you through. One day at a time, He loves and cares for each one of you good days and bad days. Praying that God will continue to bring you encouragement as you travel through each day.
Dawn <vandenberg@mchsi.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Sunday, October 10, 2004 1:47 PM CDT

Sending you lots of good wishes and love through the blowing leaves and the changing of the season.
Tom loved you all very much and was oh so proud of all of you. Driving between HTI sites we had lots of time to talk of family. We would have had some good discussions on the Presidential debates this year.

Take care and think good thoughts.
Carolyn
Carolyn Bomstad-Bah <ckbah@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Friday, October 1, 2004 1:39 PM CDT

Hey Kern family. I just thought I'd stop in and let you know I'm still thinking about you. I hope everything is getting better. Connor you're going to have to tell me when your hockey games are so I can come watch you. Us hockey people need to stick together. Alexa I hope you have fun in dance this year. I will be at your recital in the spring. My sister thinks you are just the funniest girl. Kenzie, you're the most amazing swimmer ever. You're amazingly fast too! And Kenzie... if you ever leave me again and don't tell me where you are going... oh you will be in trouble. Just kidding. Call me if you guys need anything at all! Even if you just need someone to babysit your cat. I hope all is well.
Jesse Madson <maddy414@hotmail.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Wednesday, September 29, 2004 7:49 AM CDT

Mrs. Kern.

As a 30 year old, 22 year user of smokeless tobacco, and as a married father of 2 boys ages 4 and 3, I wanted to send my sincerest sympathy and prayers for you and your family.

I found out about your family through Quitsmokeless.org, as of today I have been tobacco free for 64 days and I wanted you to know that I really hope things are getting better for you and your family.

There are many people you will never meet that are silently supporting your entire family everyday! And, without knowing it, your family is silently supporting many others as well!

I hope in time your family finds peace and things become easier for you all.

Sincerely,

Rob Stogdill
Michigan
Robert Stogdill <rob@rokayfloral.com>
South Lyon, MI USA - Wednesday, September 22, 2004 3:06 PM CDT

Mrs. Kern
Just wanted you to know that I think about you and your family everyday. With school starting, I am sure you are all very busy. Keep smiling, but remember that's it's okay to cry, too! As time passes, don't forget that you are still in everyone's prayers! Even though I didn't know Tom, I think about him everytime I hear Tim McGraw's song, Live Like You Are Dying. I think it's a song that everyone should live by and listen to. Thinking of you often!
Michelle Walter <twinshelly2003@hotmail.com>
Buffalo Lake, MN - Tuesday, September 14, 2004 9:07 PM CDT

Hi Jenny,
I am thinking of you often because I care so much about you. I know the hussle and bussle of the new school year makes you all ready busy schedule even busier. I am glad to hear that you will be having some terrfic help after school with the kids.. I am looking forward to being with you at Mackenzie's swim meets!!
Let me know if you have some time to be together sometime.
I love you lots and would enjoy being with you.
Mary Getzke
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Mary Getzke
mary getzke <maryg@hutchtel.net>
hutchinson, mn usa - Wednesday, August 25, 2004 1:08 PM CDT

Dear Jenny and Family,
I was so shocked and heartbroken to hear of Kerny's courageous battle and passing. At Gustavus you could not find anyone with a bigger smile, better sense of humor or larger zest for life. He will truly be missed by all of us that knew him. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.

Lisa Carlson Bonko <lbonko@earthlink.net>
North St. Paul, MN USA - Friday, July 30, 2004 4:03 PM CDT

Dear Jenny and kids,

I write to you, just hearing of Tom�s death (we were on vacation when the news came). I wanted to let you know that you and your family will be in my church�s prayers this weekend. I am a pastor in Rancho Cucamonga, CA. I used to play football with Tom (way back when). Tom was an upperclassman and I was one of the few 87 grad underclassman that played offensive line. I have fond memories of him looking out for us �young punks� and always being encouraging and supportive.

As a father of three, I cannot imagine the void Tom leaves. I can only respond in the way I know best, prayer. Your and your family will be prayed for this Sunday by 200+ people you do not know over 2000 miles away. May God use those prayers to lift your spirits, give you strength, and bolster your courage to take each day, �one day at a time.� If there is anything else we can do, let me know.

God�s Peace,

Pastor Tim Robertson
GAC class of 1987
Tim Robertson <timr@crossandcrownchurch.com>
Rancho Cucamonga, CA USA - Friday, July 30, 2004 10:41 AM CDT

To Jenny, Tom's children, family and friends of Tom Kern. You all are in our family's thoughts and prayers. Remember death does not end a relationship. May you be able to call on the spirit of Tom when you need him now and throughout your lives. HE is a great guy. The Lord's blessings to you all.
Brian, Heidie, Taylor, Logan, Noah and Sawyer Hays <brian.hays@co.dakota.mn.us>
Hastings, MN - Friday, July 30, 2004 10:19 AM CDT

Kern Family:

You do not know me, but I was made aware of your loss through quitsmokeless.org. First, I would like to send my sincere condolences. Your family will be in our thoughts and prayers.

The reason I wanted to write was to let you know how much the events in your life the last few months have helped some of the members of quitsmokeless.org. As you may know, QS is an on-line support group for people who are quitting, or have quit, smokeless tobacco use. Your loss was a tragic event, but it has at least helped some of our members quit, or stay quit during the hard times. I know this is of little condolence to you, but at least it is something postive.

Your husband/father sounds like a great man, and I know he will be deeply missed. You will continue to be in our thoughts and prayers, and thank you for sharing your story with others...it has been a great source of strength and resolve.

Sincerely,

Doug

Doug
Orlando, FL - Tuesday, July 20, 2004 10:52 AM CDT

Jenny & Family~
I was watching the news for a story and it told what had happened at the church. I am truely sorry and hope who did that will step up and give it back. You will be in my prayers. I had 3 friends die over the last year and half. Two of them were best friends killed in an automobile accident and the other was killed on his snowmobile. It hurts alot to lose someone so close. But yet know you have so many people that will love and be there for you. God bless you all.... P.S. i was reading some other entries and noticed they know tom or you or the kids umm.i didnt but i wanted to tell you God Bless and will be donating money, Thats why i came on the web was to find the address. So again God Bless you all
Amber <Dopey04@hotmail.com>
Norwood Young America, mn USA - Monday, July 12, 2004 11:04 PM CDT

Jenny and family,
I was so sad to hear about what happened at the benefit. I just could not believe someone could actually do something so horrible. I pray that something good can come of this and that God could be working on that persons heart to come forward. You are an amazing person Jenny and I know everything will work out. We are continually praying for you guys and are here for you like so many are. God is so good and I know you all will pull through this. Lots of love, Jennifer Johnson
P.S. Tori, when can you come play again??
jennifer johnson <john1234@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, mn - Monday, July 12, 2004 10:33 PM CDT

Kern Family, my second family lately! :o)
I just got an e-mail, well acually a forward. I usually never open forwards but today I was bored and I opened one. It was about how important friends are. At the end of the forward it said:
If God brings you to it,
He will bring you through it.
I'm sure someone has already said this to you guys, but just in case i'm saying it to you also. These next days, weeks, months, even years are going to be so difficult, but God made this happen for a reason which we do not know, but he will help you through this. You guys know I'm always either home doing nothing, or not at home but still doing nothing. So if you guys need anything you know how to get ahold of me. It is sad to know its been a month already, but Tom is always there watching and saying his little comments he always did! and remember "Keep the damn cat downstairs" Don't worry I'll keep saying that one...i'm allergic to it!! Love you all!

Ashlee Hanke <ashlee_ann05@hotmail.com>
- Monday, July 12, 2004 3:13 PM CDT

Jenny and Tom Kern family,

I am so sorry that I just found out about this tragic loss. I played linebacker alongiside "Fig" in high school. We had a great time on that football team! We lived together in the same neighborhood and were good friends. As you know, Tom was a great guy. I have not seen him for years but I am sure he was a great husband and father. I experienced the unexpected loss of my father 1 year ago to a heart attack. I can offer these words of encouragement. Time will help a lot. Praying helps. Keeping busy helped me from reaching lows. There will always be some lows, and you may not see them coming. Encouragment from those that have experienced a loss has helped me the most. I always thought of Tom as a big Teddy Bear. He was tough and competitive as a bear on the football field yet gentle and always friendly off the field.

Our Prayers are with you.
Steve, Kelly, Chase, Amber, Elsa Anderson
Steve Anderson <steven.anderson@pioneer.com>
Des Moines, IA - Friday, July 9, 2004 2:54 PM CDT

Jenny and Family,

You all are in my thoughts often and I would like to offer my prayers and support through this difficult time. My son Michael is on Conner's baseball team, my son Reid is in Alexa's class, and my husband and I both work at HTI. I too lost my father at a young age and the gathering of stories is a wonderful idea. When my father passed away his peers wrote a similiar collection, it is a possession I treasure. As I have grown it has helped not only to remember him as my father, but also to see him as a man. Take Care and God Bless.
Michelle McGraw <michelle.mcgraw@hti.htch.com>
Dassel, MN USA - Wednesday, July 7, 2004 9:03 AM CDT

Hey Jenny and kids, life on the farm is waiting for you! When can you come? Today I was driving to a garden I am working on and for some reason you, the kids and the memories of Tom's Funeral bubbled to the surface. Out of know where grief just blind sided me--I wept the entire length of hwy 169. This whole tragic experience of the cancer and loss of Tom stuns us. I tried calling to see if you guys want to come up for the weekend over the 4th, just to get away--the line was busy. The offer is open when you all have some free time. Our baby goat still drinks from a bottle. We have horses to ride. We have a river to fish or raft down. We have industrial strenghth bug spray. We have a puppy that is a sweet terror and a kitten who only wishes to be held 24-7. We miss you and send thoughts of strength and love to all. Come to our quiet land soon! P.s. What are the dates for the play? P.s.s. I am amazed at the great outpouring of love and support represented via caringbridge. Amazing!! I must go and tuck in my sweet babies and squeeze the hub. Jenny, the love you and Tom have, the family support represented, the greate spirituality and faith you wear so elequently makes Scott and I want to be better parents, spouses, and friends. Tom's death makes us want to be better. At the funeral you said to me that you hoped something good had to come from this "just not right" experience--well it has. Not only have several men given up chewing, but people are raising the expectations on how they wish to live. That is an incredibly powerful and rare thing. Rarely, have I witnessed one event motivate such outpouring of goodness and love. Come to us when you can. We love you all! Beth, Scott, Sarah, Sam and Matt.
Beth and Scott Fritz <sbfritz@sherbtel.net>
Princeton, Mn U.S.A. - Friday, July 2, 2004 10:19 PM CDT

Jenny and kids,

I�m so sorry to hear about Tom. I haven�t seen Kerny for quite a few years but the memories of the good times we shared at Gustavus are still vivid in my mind. Living in Uhler, football, Reds, Spring break, and of course, countless hours of playing cards (often when we should have been studying). I�ll never forget his smile, his laugh, or his inability to drive an RV. But most of all, I�ll never forget how he made everyone around him feel so comfortable and welcome. He always had a smile on his face and something good to say. He will be missed.

On July 9th my wife Nora is participating in the American Cancer Society relay for life in Rochester. Her team will be walking all night to raise money for cancer research. The relay route is lit with luminarias to guide the walkers and one of them will have Tom's name on it and will be lit in his memory.

Tom Bjork <bjorks@att.net>
Rochester, MN 55901 - Friday, July 2, 2004 8:11 PM CDT

Jennifer and Family,

Unfortunately my wife and I were out of town when Tom passed away so we could not attend the services for him. Tom was one of the few people who always seemed to have a smile on his face and I never saw get upset. He was a great football player, card player and just a great friend.
It has been a long time since I have been in touch but I want you and the kids to know that I feel very lucky to have known Tom and my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Todd Krough
Plymouth, MN - Thursday, July 1, 2004 10:26 AM CDT

Jenny & Kids,
I just heard the news about Tom. My prayers go out to you and the kids. I played football with Tom and Tom lived on the same floor as I did my freshman year. Tom always made me laugh and I'll always recall playing games of buck with Tom. Even though I haven't seen Tom since college I'm going to miss him.
Scott Robinson <scott_robinson@whayne.com>
Louisville, KY USA - Tuesday, June 29, 2004 4:06 PM CDT

Jenny and children,
I am so sorry to hear this news. Tom was a great friend and teammate and just a fun guy to be around! Having spent those four years with Tom at GAC are wonderful memories.
Jeff Braun <jbraun@juno.com>
Huntington Woods, MI USA - Monday, June 28, 2004 11:16 AM CDT

Kenzie, I'm sorry to hear about your dad and everything. Stay tough, but don't forget to remember him, he'll always be with you, through everything. If you EVER need anything at all, don't hesitate to give me a call. You're in my prayers and thoughts on an hourly basis. On the bright side though, you have to come see my puppy again soon. She misses you. And you get to watch me attempt to be a star swimmer in the fall.
Jesse <maddy414@hotmail.com>
Hutchinson, MN - Friday, June 25, 2004 11:13 PM CDT

Please know that so many of us that you don't know and have never met are feeling the pain and sadness of Tom's death. I played high school football with "Fig" and lived nearby. Because he was older and had his drivers license first, Tom gave many of us who lived by him rides to two-a-day practices in his family's blue Nova. Hard to believe we thought that was a "hot" car. Tom was one of the captains of the team and a true leader. It is an unusual person who can inspire and encourage people in the every day things of life. Tom was one of those people. He had the ability to be a good friend and a great leader at the same time. One minute he would be laughing with you, the next he would be kicking your butt because you missed an assignment. There was always a crowd of people around Tom wherever he was. Usually, they were laughing and having a great time. Sad thing is, despite all his leadership capabilities and other great qualities, Tom had the ugliest jump shot any man has ever possessed. I have never seen a guy take the ball that far back behind his head and still make a basket. Despite Tom's jump shot, the Lincoln Comets rocked in 7th and 8th grade. Tom was a good man, even when he was just starting to become one "back in the day." That is probably why so many of us have shed tears as we have read the pages of this internet journal and come to grips with his death. I know that God will comfort and protect your family as you seek Him and trust in his promises. May God make His face to shine upon you.
John Elliott <johnelliott@allamericanpublishing.com>
Boise, ID USA - Friday, June 25, 2004 4:10 PM CDT

TO ALL FAMILIES AND FRIENDS OF TOM AND HIS FAMILY,
Wow, what an impact this website has been to MANY people. It certainly proves that the world still IS a caring and loving place.

We just wanted to let all of you be aware that there will be a benefit for Tom's family soon.

Here is the information about the upcoming event:

TOM KERN BENEFIT

Date: Wednesday, July 7th

Time: 4:00 p.m. - 7:30 p.m.

Place: Faith Lutheran Church
335 Main St. S.
Hutchinson, MN 55350

This will be a Spaghetti Supper, Silent Auction and Quilt Raffle.

*If you cannot attend but would like to send a monetary donation, send it to Faith Lutheran Church, and also
add ATTENTION: Tom Kern Benefit.

Keep the faith AND the comments coming. We all love to see such great support!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Jodi Drew <drews@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Thursday, June 24, 2004 9:57 PM CDT

Jenny and kids,
I have a zillion memories of my old buddy Merg,I will continue with more later but I think of him every day now and just wanted you guys to know some of the great things we did and the times we had together,his nicknames were as follows..sigmond, that is the precursor to Fig and the reason I called him that was because of this TV show called Sigmund and the sea monster and for whatever reason I called him Sigmond.And then it turned to Siggy and then by 6th grade and into the summer of 1975 right before we started 7th grade football it became Fig.That name stuck.
He had the name Fig on the front of his football helmut and coach Goofy Miller(yes the coach had a nickname too)
was one of the first of Mergs coaches to spot his incredible drive.He had Fig written in black magic marker right between his eyes on all his helmets thru high school. When I saw his helmet coming I knew Just like anyone else on our teams that The Commander was comin'
and I best be ready to take a heavy pounding because good buddy's or not he not only set an example of excellence he was my very own example of how to be tough . I was always so proud that he was my big buddy. We would go back to southview after practices and play for days on end and those are great memories of mine.So his nickname got around to Merg in like 10th or 11th grade that was from this friend of my brother Rick and it seemed like it just fit on the big ol' Mergsy.Armin and I mostly were enamored with that one for him.Then at GAC those guys called him Kerny that was OK but naturally us guys from Mankato had cooler names for him.As we started to go to the BWCA I think Spido started Calling him the Commander and then that turned into the Kommandant which most certainly was a result of our appreciation for the TV show Hogans Heroes
which Merg and I would watch after school almost everyday
in 4th,5th,6th,and as often as we could after that.He did the greatest Major Hochsteder impression!...More later the kids are going to bed.
Chris Frost <dukemach1@yahoo.com>
Savage, MN America - Wednesday, June 23, 2004 11:09 PM CDT

We know that you don't know us that good, but we just wanted to send our deepest sympathies to your family. Tom was a great guy and was a good guy to see at work. He was always fun and full of fun times. Jesse thinks that Kenzie is an amazing girl for being able to handle all of this. Just remember that Tom will always be there with you, helping you through everything. If you guys need anything at all, don't hesitate to call us, someone is always home, and we may become better friends. If Kenzie ever wants anything, she can always call Jesse if Ashlee isn't home, she knows where our house is. You're in our prayers.
Madson Family <maddy@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN - Wednesday, June 23, 2004 12:39 AM CDT

Jenny,
When I heard of your Tom's passing, I wrote a little verse in his honor.

With Shoulders so broad and a big barrel chest
You were given to us as one o God's best
A firm square jaw, filling out a strong chin
And a twinkle in your eyes each time you grin.
A sly sense of humor and very quick wit
The shoes that you filled - no one else could fit.
You were raised with love as a brother and son
And became a husband to Jenny, whose heart you had won.
A better father could not be found in real life or story
For your adoring children Mackenzie, Alexa, Connor and Torrey
Your are greatly missed by each family and friend
It will be forever, before our hearts mend.

Love Aunt Libby
June 12, 2004
Libby Markey <lmarkey@rhin.com>
Indianapolis, IN USA - Wednesday, June 23, 2004 9:30 AM CDT

To Tom's Family -
It took my breath away to get the note about Tom's death, when I wasn't even aware he had been ill. Tom and I were Materials Supervisor counterparts a few years back.
I worked with Tom when he had responsibilities at both the HUT & PLY sites and started the first Asian inventory warehouse. Like many of us, Tom always had too much work in front of him, yet you never would have known it. He alway had a smile on his face and found humor in life's situations. He was awesome to work with would always take the time to listen, talk, and share a bit about the people he loved so much - his family. I was pregnant at the same time as Jenny & Tom were pregnant with their youngest child, so kids and family were a favorite topic...he sure loved you guys!
I hope these thoughts offer you some peace...
God brought you to this, he will see you though it.
We were all truely blessed to have had time with Tom, and you are especially blessed to have had him as a husband and Dad. Take comfort in the contributions to this website as testiment of his gifts and purpose in life.
Although God's plan for the future is unknown to us, know that you are right where you need to be.
Teresa Ritzinger <Teresa_J_Ritzinger@hti.htch.com>
Eau Claire, WI USA - Tuesday, June 22, 2004 11:01 AM CDT

Jenny & family,
Though I didn't know Tom very well . . . I do remember when you and Mary were visiting us relatives in Indianapolis. Mary was telling me of how Tom would tickle you and get you laughing. The look you had of when you were talking of Tom . . . I knew that you two were to marry (yes, way back then). I can't begin to imagine the pain, loss, anger, and fear that all of you may be going through. All of you are in our prayers! God Bless!
Michelle Harrison <m_dharrison@yahoo.com>
Atlanta, IN USA - Tuesday, June 22, 2004 10:24 AM CDT

Jenny and Kern Family,
There is not a day that has gone by that I have not thought of Tom since we found out that he was in the hospital. I had the privledge of knowing and calling Tom a friend for 36 years. I have so many great memories of our southview days, high school, the college years, boundry waters trips, weddings, etc, etc. I did not have the strength to share any of these great memories at the funeral, I could not get the words out. But, I would love to share them with you and the kids in the future. Brenda and I give you and the whole Kern family our deepest sympathy. You and the kids are in our thoughts and prayers.

God bless you,
Todd, Brenda, Courtney, and Nathan Schull
Todd Schull <tsschull@kcc.com>
Lakeville, MN - Tuesday, June 22, 2004 9:03 AM CDT

God bless to Jenny and the kids and this wonderful family who did such a great job supporting Tommy through all this - and for a wonderful memorial service. After knowing Tom for nearly 30 years, all the fun and laughs, canoe and hunting trips and visits with his family I know that Tommy would be proud of us all, as we were proud of him for his courage.
I also know Tommy would be asking us all to take care of our health, to hug our family and to take some time out to appreciate what life is really all about - the people you love.
I'm in process of typing up some fond memories of the guy and plan to forward those to his family someday soon. I'll also encourage the people who feel strongly about the man, to respond to the trust fund noted above.
Lastly, I ask for God's blessing on Jenny and these kids. I ask that they be granted strength both now and in the future. I ask that they have the courage to seek out a helping hand when it'd be helpful. I ask that those who can help - to do so.
God bless Tommy Kern.

Steve (Spido) Peterson
Mankato, MN USA - Monday, June 21, 2004 6:55 PM CDT

Jenny and Family,

I would like to offer my sincere sympathy for the loss that you and your family have experienced.

I was Tom's high school football coach at Mankato West . I will remember him as an athlete who was a strong competitor on the field, always showing leadership qualities, but possibly more important, conducted himself on and off the field in a manner that always represented the Scarlets in a positive way. He would never have thought of doing anything that would embarass the team or his school.

I am confident that Tom was a fine husband and father. Knowing him as I did, he could not have been any other way.

We do not alway understand God's ways. Some things cannot be explained, except through faith. It is my prayer that, the God who has taken Tom to be with him,
will give you and your family the strength to go on. I'm confident that he will.

Best Wishes,

Don Larsen
Don Larsen <dlarsen1@hickorytech.net>
Mankato, MN USA - Monday, June 21, 2004 5:21 PM CDT

Jenny & Kids,
You continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. Please know that you can lean on family & friends during the difficult days ahead.
Karp <mkarpin2@wm.com>
Mesa, AZ - Monday, June 21, 2004 4:04 PM CDT

Dear Kern Family:

I was surprised and sad to hear about Tom. While I actually new him very little (he was a friend of friends)he seemed like a nice guy and I know that he will be missed greatly by all that had the privilege to know him.

Our family's thoughts and prayers go out to you and yours with the hope of comfort and peace on your journey.

Sincerely,

Scott
Scott Dingman <scott.dingman@lpl.com>
Richmond, VA USA - Monday, June 21, 2004 8:07 AM CDT

Dearest Jenny, Mackenzie, Alexa, Conner, and Torey, although we could not be physcially present at the funeral we were thinking of you all day long, and today, too. To read your updates on this website and those who write in as we do, binds us together in one great love-hug. Our granddaughter, Christian, has written and sent, on her own volition, a touching letter to you. I couldn't be prouder that she cared to reach out to her "far-away cousins." I hope somehow you can come to Grandma R's birthday party. If God wills, it will be. Our love and prayers will always be with you, no matter what. Love in Christ Jesus.
Molly and Bill Halter <christian@cboss.com>
- Sunday, June 20, 2004 8:02 PM CDT

Dear Kern Family,
You have asked for any stories about Tom from our past. One comes to my mind when I think of Tom.
At the end of Football practice at GAC., we would sometimes have to run what we called "10 Perfect Plays" where we would have to execute 10 plays in a row with out any mistakes. We would run a variety of passing or running plays with all of us getting off on the right count and executing the play and then sprinting 10 yards down the field. It didn't matter if you had already run 9 perfect plays, if you screwed up on the 10th play you had to start all over again. There were usually three different squads and we would compete to see which squad would finish first.
Well our squad had completed 8 perfect plays when the Eric Lande, the quarterback, decided have the snap count be 2 on the next play. Now, I couldn't tell you if Tom or I had more trouble remembering the snap count that year. I was playing Center and he was playing Tackle. Too often one of us would jump too soon when a later snap count was called. Anyways, when I heard the snap count was on 2, I slapped Kerny on the shoulder and repeated to him that the count was on 2. He turned his head, looked at me through the side of his eyes and said,"Why don't you just take care of yourself Hammer. Your not perfect." He was right so everyone just shut up.
Well we got in our formation at the line of scrimmage and wouldn't you know it on Hut1 Kerny jumps. Well we got in the formation again and ran the play correctly. But, jogging back to the huddle there may have been a few smiles and a few groans but nobody said a word.

Matt Hammerlund <MWH8185@AOL.com>
Minnetrista, MN - Sunday, June 20, 2004 9:39 AM CDT

Dear Jenny and Kids,
We think of you today as you are missing your husband and dad. We are praying for you, and know God will bring His healing to you all. with love, The Swansons
Scott and Debby Swanson <sswanson5@mn.rr.com>
Edina, Mn USA - Sunday, June 20, 2004 9:14 AM CDT

Dear Jenny: Thank you for taking the time to speak with me on Wednesday. I know you had a thousand things to do. I wish I could be there with you, but I promise I'll come soon. Hang in there, I don't know why this has happened to you-but try to keep your faith-God is merciful, just hard to understand. I love you, my friend.
Annie
Oak Brook, IL USA - Friday, June 18, 2004 9:59 PM CDT

Jenny and Family,
Tom was always so good to me. Although I did not seem him in the past couple years, his smile, good nature and laughter is not something I will forget. We are all better people because of your husband and father. A very, very special man. I look forward to playing cards with him again, in a better place, someday. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Eric Henderson <Eric.Henderson@Tetrapak.com>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Friday, June 18, 2004 9:48 PM CDT

Dear Jenny and Family,
We are so sorry to hear about Tom. We are friends of Tom's brother Bob out in California. Bob being the wonderful person he is, I'm sure Tom was no different.
We will continue to keep your family in our thoughts and prayers.May God bless you and hold you close through this very difficult time.
Our deepest sympathy,
Troy,Christine,Emily,Garrett,Sydney&Nicollette Hill
Christine Hill <z71emily @yahoo.com>
Fountain Valley, Ca USA - Friday, June 18, 2004 6:09 PM CDT

As I heard the news of Tom's death it left an instant void in my heart. As many others have stated, the first image I had was of Tom's smiling face and remembering his strong presence on the Gustavus Football Field. Tom instantly welcomed me as a transfer student, and football player, at Gustavus. He'd knock you down and then encourage you to go on. He was a man I admired.

It's times like this that I wish I was closer to my Minnesota home. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. With my deepest sympathy! Lou
Greg Luhman <gregluhman@hotmail.com>
Sheridan, WY USA - Thursday, June 17, 2004 11:25 PM CDT

Jenny and kids,
I can't get enough of the entries people have written to you. It is so heartwarming to see how many people Tom has touched in his short life. If we could all be so lucky in our lifetimes to have made such an impact on as many people as Tom has. And to think....your children all have a huge piece of him to use to carry on that love. Jenny, not a minute goes by that I haven't thought of you and the kids. The pain is so raw for you and I can't even begin to understand what you are going through. You are all surrounded by SO many people who love you so much and care so much. Reach out and lean on others anyway you need to. You don't always have to be that pillar of strength that you have been....you need to grieve and let others be strong for you. Just know that I want to be there in ANY way I can. Eric reminds us everyday that Tom is in heaven and that we will see him again. I believe he is Eric's angel watching over him.
Love, Greg, Lori, Jack, Eric and Nick
Lori Haffley <ghaffley@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Thursday, June 17, 2004 7:53 PM CDT

Dear Jenny and family,

Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you at this most difficult time. I wish I could be there to give you a hug and hold your hand. It was quite a shock to have Kathy call today and share the news since I wasn't even aware that Tom had been ill. As Kathy said, we were all just together in September and everything seemed so normal. How quickly life can take a turn. It is unbelievable. I really don't know how I could be of help but if I can please don't hesitate to write or call.

Susan (Luhman) Michael <smichael4@mac.com>
Durham, CT USA - Thursday, June 17, 2004 6:19 PM CDT

Jenny and Family
We were so saddened to learn of your tremendous loss. We will always remember Tom for his quick wit, his competitive spirit, strong convictions and his uncanny ability to make you feel so very comfortable in his presence. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

Scott and Jean Fransen

Scott Fransen <scott@citylitesusa.com>
Chanhassen, MN USA - Thursday, June 17, 2004 4:30 PM CDT

Hi Jenny,
I could not believe the terrible news that I just heard. So sorry for your loss. Renee and I will keep you and your family in our prayers. Please call or email if you need to talk. Sorry I couldn't have been there. Tom
Tom and Renee Rich <tom.r@ogilvie.k12.mn.us>
Ogilvie, MN Kanabec - Thursday, June 17, 2004 3:28 PM CDT

I am so sorry to hear about your family's loss. I have only known this family a few years through being fellow swimmers together, and you have all made an impact on my life. Your family is so sweet, kind, caring, fun, and dedicated to helping others. It has been a great opportunity to swim with Kenzie over the years, coach with Jenny, and just getting to know your family. This loss has caused a lot of people in this community grief, and I must say that you are not alone! You are surrounded by friends and family that love you all and will do anything for you if you ask. You are a strong family and will all get through this with your strong faith. Tom is in a better place now, and he is watching over you all. He will always be with you burrowed deep inside your hearts. Stay strong and remember the good times! You are all so very special and I am here for you if you need anything. God bless you all.
Sabrina Howard <beanershark@hotmail.com>
Hutchinson , MN USA - Thursday, June 17, 2004 3:06 PM CDT

Dear Jenny and the gang,

I couldn't believe the news when Anne called me yesterday. Wasn't it just yesterday that we were all at Gustavus dedicating the Pine Tree for Sue? The world has lost a couple of wonderful Gusties!! Tom was a great guy. (Except that he use to tease me at GAC over all the mail I got-we shared a PO Box!) I could always tell when I saw him looking at you, how very much he loved you and how proud he was of all of his kids. I can't begin to know or understand your pain and fear right now, but please know that you are in my heart and prayers. If there is anything that I can do, just let me know. Even though I won't be at the service tomorrow, I will be thinking of you all and praying for God's comfort. Stay strong Jenny. Take care of yourself first and let those around you help. I am here if you need anything. Please call! I love you lots!
Kathy Kerns Schroeder <kjschroeder3@comcast.net>
Lakewood, CO USA - Thursday, June 17, 2004 2:16 PM CDT

Jenny and Family,

We are saddened every time we look out our kitchen window....our "TV" to your vibrant family's life. May all the love and support you are getting ease the pain of your loss. Don't forget you have a nearby neighbor who is happy to help.
Tom and Lauri Ginkel <tginkel@mchsi.com>
- Thursday, June 17, 2004 9:25 AM CDT

Jenny and family,
So very sorry for the loss of Tom. As I remember Tom, I see a smiling face, full of strength and determination. May you be continually swarmed with God's presence at this time.
Dave
Dave Spiegler <djspieg@hotmail.com>
Chicago, IL US - Thursday, June 17, 2004 0:52 AM CDT

Dear Kern family,
I have just learned of Tom's death and read through all the messages in this guestbook. I too am from the Southview gang and have great memories of those days with Tom, John and Bobby. I also remember Tom's love of sports in high school, he was a guy that we were all proud to cheer on. It's hard to believe he is gone; Jenny, my heart aches for you. Grief is painful and lonely. Jenny take care of yourself first, let those close to you help you. Talk often of Tom, we all will, he has created wonderful memories for many people from all phases of his life.

Prayers to all of the Kern family!
Meg Touhey Schulz <p.paulschulz@comcast.net>
Osseo, MN - Wednesday, June 16, 2004 6:41 PM CDT

Jenny and family,
I just heard of your loss and want you to know we are praying for you. My parents and one brother and his family live in Hutch and I've meant to stop to say hello for years. Tom was an inspiration as a competitor but most of all as a husband and father. We too have been blessed with four children. I know God will take care of all of you. It's evident from all the entries that you have a great family and many, many